When the moment came and I began to realize that many of my definitive, black and white answers that I had turned into a simplistic grid of belief-ism were actually grey and complex, my life changed forever.
I was forced to struggle through realizing modesty has more to do with materialism than skirt length; that “husband, lead you wife” isn’t a verse in the Bible; that spanking your child isn’t a mandate; that the New Testament mentions a handful of women church leaders; that Jesus turned water into alcohol; that some people don’t fit the Church’s gender box and that sign gifts might still be a thing.
- It is easier to mandate a spiritual skirt length than to take into account culture, intent and humility.
- It is easier to assign traditional roles in marriage than to balance join leadership as a couple.
- It is easier to have a canned discipline method than to deliberately learn a child’s heart and correction needs.
- It is easier to relegate teaching to a masculine tone than to consider a soprano voice could communicate the same truth.
- It is easier to ban a beverage than to learn how to use it properly.
- It is easier to stereotype genders than to work at discovering an individual’s particular gifting.
- It is easier to discredit a mysterious gift than to learn how to control it well.
I want life to be all black or white but I am coming to realize there is a lot of grey to grapple with. The questions that come out of all this are often hard and the daily living it out is even harder... but we weren’t call to an easy life.
I love what Sarah Bessey says on this topic:
When questions, contemplations and realizations come, cling to the One who is steady. Work the things you don’t understand, struggle until you do or release and admit you don’t know.
Breath. It’s ok to not know.