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Hello! I'm Ashley.

I’m a Christian feminist, writer, speaker, TV producer, news pundit, ordained reverend, and abuse-victim advocate who educates churches and secular communities on abuse. I’m the founder of The Courage Conference, for survivors of abuse—and those who love them.

You Don't Owe Them A Touch

You Don't Owe Them A Touch

You don’t owe them a kiss, a hug or a handshake. No, you don’t owe them a touch.

You don’t owe it to a stranger, a friend, a family member or a lover. No, you don’t owe them a touch.

You don’t even owe it to a teacher, a boss or spiritual leader. No, you don’t owe them a touch.

It doesn’t matter if they paid for you, gave to you or made a way for you. You don’t owe them a touch.

It doesn’t matter if they are caring, generous or kind. You don't owe them a touch.

It doesn’t matter if they ask for it, expect it or attempt to extract it. You don’t owe them a touch.

In fact, you don’t owe anyone a touch, ever, under any circumstance.  Touches are not currency to be payed out or cashed in.  Touches are gifts to be given (or accepted) out of your own, enthusiastic, free will; without any sense of obligation or trepidation (1).  If someone attempts to make you believe you owe them a touch please know, they are the problem, not you.

-Ashley Easter

Notes and Sources: 

(1) Legitimate consent is the presence of an enthusiastic “yes” (verbal or non-verbal) void of manipulation, threats, or head games, not just the absence of a “no”. See, What Consent Looks Like and YesMeansYes: Consent.

What To Do When You Don't Know Who You Are Anymore

What To Do When You Don't Know Who You Are Anymore

Don’t Be Lazy!

Don’t Be Lazy!